I hope your summer days were full of memories and cherished moments. Yes, I know that won’t be true of everyone, so let me rephrase. As summer is behind us, I hope you saw God in a way that might have been new, true and awakening. Many years ago, as I raised my daughters (now young adults), we made new memories and I tried to make each outing an adventure. This summer, however, was quite different for our family. My own mother, JoAnn Kaloustian, went to heaven peacefully on August 24, 2021. As I mourn my mom and my own memories of her, I also see God as a Comforter like I never experienced before. God gave me a wonderful community of friends and family who have blessed me more than I could have imagined. Friend, we need a community to care, love and pray for one another. We need friendships.

As we enter into sweater weather, picked apples transformed into favorite recipes, soccer games and book clubs, I encourage you to attend one of Her Life Speaks’ Small Groups. It occurred to me that there are many who may have no idea what a small group is. So let me share with you the top reasons why you should join us:

1. You will build lifelong friendships and bless one another
2. You will grow in your faith
3. You will find a safe space and nonjudgement community 
4. You will laugh, cry and be yourself
5. You will hear authentic stories of women’s lives and what God is capable of doing

​Our Small Groups are meeting virtually, in person, nights, days, in NJ and PA. If you know a teen girl, you know how easily influenced she is in the world of social media today. We can’t change everyone else, but we can certainly encourage and equip teen girls who show up virtually at our small group on Tuesday nights. From my own experiences as a girl, I can’t say enough how important it is for girls to gather in their own space to let their hair down and to be themselves with no worry of judgment. Most importantly, your teen will realize that she is not alone in her walk with God and as she navigates her own journey.

My community is everything to me. 

“... there should be equal concern for each other. If one woman suffers, we all suffer, if she is honored, we all rejoice with her. You are one. You each have a part to offer.” 
Paraphrased 1 Corinthians 12:25-27 

I hope you’ll join us. 
Find a Small Group that works for you:  Small Groups - HER LIFE SPEAKS

See you there.
Love,
April Sliwak
Founder 

I grew up in a home where wearing sweatshirts and leggings to school was not allowed. On multiple occasions before walking out the door I would be sent back upstairs to change into something that covered my toosh. I remember putting up a fight and stomping my feet all the way up to make a point. Sometimes I would even hide a change of clothes in my bag and get dressed in the school bathroom.

Years later when I entered college I realized I could be in complete control of what I put on my body. I quickly learned that crop tops and bralettes were the going out uniform, so I had to run over to the nearest Urban Outfitters to make some tweaks to my wardrobe. Finally, I felt like I was fitting into the culture I always desired to be part of, or at least I thought I did.

After a few semesters, I realized I was never fully comfortable dressing in a way that exposed so much of myself. I felt embarrassed when I would see photos posted on Facebook, constantly untagging myself so my family couldn’t see me. The secrecy started to make me question if it was really worth it?

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:2

This scripture was always somewhere in the back of my mind, but God gave me a new way of embodying it through my wardrobe experience. Looking back, I believe God was putting me through a test. Dressing to conform to the world was a temptation for me. When I dressed for the world, it opened my eyes to a lot of desirable things; “likes” on social media, attention from boys, approval from friends, just to name a few. But, these things didn’t fill me up the way God did and those “desirable” things left me feeling like the world wanted a piece of me that I wasn’t ready to give over. 

“She is clothed in strength and dignity, and laughs without fear of the future” Proverbs 31:25.

Through this ten year journey, I have chosen to glorify God with my body. Through Him, I know I am enough when I choose to dress modestly. It’s something I still struggle with as a young adult, but I’m now more equipped to take on this challenge knowing this is a way for me to honor God. So, when I get dressed for an event, work or even the gym, I ask myself, “who am I dressing for?” and if my answer is “other’s approval and attention”, I get back right to my closet and start over!

What challenge are you facing from society? How can you turn to God for strength to overcome the desire for acceptance and the peer pressures from the ways of the world?

Best Summer Looks

You can still look cute while dressing modestly! There are so many reasons to get dressed up for the summer, even if it's just in a casual setting. Don’t let those summer dresses go to waste in your closet. Here are some of my favorite looks for different occasions. 

Summer BBQ: Maxi dresses

April Sliwak
Her Life Speaks
Founder
april@herlifespeaks.org

I was shocked when a woman once said to me, “I never pray for myself because it’s selfish”. Imagine never praying for yourself. Ever. Wow, what a miss. When I ask women, “How can I pray for you, or are there any prayer requests?” they will usually give me prayer requests for a neighbor, friend, sister, daughter or even their pet, (which are all fine btw). We are nurturers, aren’t we? Often putting others before yourself. I’d like to pitch the idea that praying for ourselves is self-care.

My son-in-love recently asked me who my favorite unassuming character in the Bible
was and I replied, “Jabez”. Jabez is only mentioned 3 times in the Bible; once as a town
and the other as a person. In 1 Chronicles 4:9-10 Jabez prays for himself: “Jabez
prayed to God, “Oh that you would bless me and expand my territory! Please be with
me in all that I do and keep me from all trouble and pain!” And God granted him his
request.” Jabez knew he needed God. He needed God’s protection, blessing and his
provision.

Jabez prayed for himself and God granted his requests. All three of them!

I wonder what it is that holds us back from praying for ourselves. For this woman it was
selfishness. Could it be because we don’t think of it as self-care? Or necessary? Or
unworthiness? Could we believe the lie that our sin is too big and ugly that we can’t ask
God for anything for ourselves? I don’t find any of these reasons in the Bible. I do
however, know that the Villain will do everything in his power to separate us from God,
especially in prayer.

God invites us into prayer with him, Matthew 6:33. We can ask him for anything for
ourselves; love, protection, provision, healing, comfort, peace, a job, child, husband, a
car, direction, joy... anything. We take care of “us” when we pray for ourselves. Praying
for ourselves is empowering because we are taking matters into our own hands by
bringing it to the Decision Maker, himself. Prayer for ourselves changes things. It makes
us better, the best we can be when it’s with God.

Questions to contemplate:

1. If you knew God would grant your request, what would you pray for yourSELF?
2. What lie are you believing that is preventing you from praying for yourself?
3. How can you intentionally pray for your own needs?

April Sliwak
Founder of Her Life Speaks
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Growing up I was independent, inventive, and competitive. These may sound like equipping traits to have and, in my case, they were necessary to be in the game and show face. I grew a “hard shell” on the outside stemming from what was on the inside; hurt, shame, abuse, abandonment and isolation. I didn’t want anyone or need anyone, a lie I believed. So my “I’m okay” attitude morphed into my pride of autonomy.

I was disconnected and didn’t make myself vulnerable to ask for what I wanted or
needed. I endured the pain of emptiness and unworthiness by not having solutions,
resources, tools or a mentor. My pride got in the way of reaching out for help, wise
counsel, and God.
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It takes a lot of work to wear a hard shell camouflaged as a cry for help.
As we rounded the corner of the one year anniversary in a pandemic and legitimate
isolation, I’ve spent a lot of time reading my Bible. I’m thankful for this time as God
showed me many Truths that suddenly saturated my soul and heart like never before
and encouraged me in my journey of healing and restoration from lies I believed.

These truths are:

• Trust is a choice. I can decide to trust again or live in fear. 2 Timothy 1:7
• Hope is in the resurrection. Jesus rose from the dead and crushed Satan. The Accuser who represented all the lies I believed about myself, was overcome by the resurrection; Jesus is my hope. 1 Peter 1:3
• Promises of God. God can’t break his promises. Hebrews 6:18
• The Armor of God. Protects me from head to toe from temptation and deliverance from “evil”. Ephesians 6:10-18
• The Lord’s Prayer. Given by Jesus, to correct and model our prayer life. I am free to ask Our Father for deliverance from evil every day. Matthew 6:9-13

I’ve known these truths well but it’s been in this season that strongholds of disbelief are
breaking. When I let go of my pride and choose to believe and not default to my old way
of thinking, I feel the Holy Spirit moving. There’s a gentle easy feeling. A comfort that
just lets me default to God. And believe Him.

Questions for contemplation:

1. What do you not believe or trust about God? And what would your life look like if you did believe Him?
2. Which Truth, (above), stands out to you? I challenge you to look up the scripture and read it a few times letting God speak to you as he did to me. Write down what he’s saying, your thoughts, your feelings, reactions... Ponder it over.
3. Is there someone with a “hard shell” that you could invite to coffee to bless her with a listening ear and a word of encouragement? Call her today and show her you care. Trust me, it will make a difference.

By Liz Rodriguez
Global Outreach Coordinator | Her Life Speaks 

I was living in the USA on a medical visa, but my desire to attend college would require me to change my status to a student visa. Changing a visa status would also mean I would need to go back to the Dominican. This was a risk.

Immediately upon arriving in the Dominican, I set up an appointment with a well-known Dominican lawyer. She advised me that I did not have the financial status needed and this was when God was about to teach me to walk by faith. He gently reminded me that He has a plan for my life.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:1

I felt led to start a Bible study with my neighbor. I had never done this before, but I began teaching my neighbor about Abraham. God began teaching both of us to trust Him. 

My next step was to apply for a student visa at the embassy. I walked in nervous, but hopeful. My heart sank when the official denied my request...a door had closed. I had a deadline of a few weeks to receive this visa or I would lose my chance.

I cried out to God to show me what to do. He directed me to continue the Bible study and talk to my neighbor about Abraham‘s faith walk. I clung to God and asked Him to direct my steps.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

Meanwhile in the USA, my lawyer and American Mom gathered documents and asked the church to pray. I returned to the embassy with a renewed hope. Due to traffic delays and an accident, I arrived late to my appointment. In frustration I was crying, but God reminded me through my mother to trust Him and to surrender everything to Him. 

As I waited, I was shaking and noticed that the same officer that denied me was there to interview me. I asked God to lead me. Moments before it was my turn, there was a change in officers. The new officer called my name, and in five minutes, my student visa was approved! 

With one day left before the deadline, I flew to the USA to pursue my dream. God had provided a way, where there seemed to be no way.

“For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.” Isaiah 43:19

God has a plan for us and He will guide us even when we face trials. Surrendering to Him and His timing grows our faith even amidst trials. 

If I had gotten my visa right away, I would not have led the Bible study with my neighbor nor would I have seen the power of prayer, but most of all I would not have grown in faith as I did.

​What do you do when trials come your way? Do you run towards God? Or away from Him? Do you trust His plans?