Hey beautiful and faithful Moms of Teen Girls!
If I asked you to write a letter of encouragement to your younger self, what is the first
thing that comes to your mind? (Pause)
Do any of these resonate: “There was purpose in what you went through and God used it for good.”, “God was always with you. You were never alone, beloved. His hand was on you.”, “Yes, “it” was hard. You were lonely and didn’t have anyone to talk to. But Jesus died for the brokenhearted to heal and redeem. That’s what you are today, free, redeemed, and guilt free.”. These are only some of the things I wrote in my letter to my younger self.
I encourage you to write a letter of affirmation to your younger self as a blessing too.
Her Life Speaks is hosting a NJ event for teen girls called The Beauty Project which
came from a vision God gave me as I started to heal from my adolescence. As God
redeemed each part of my hurt and suffering he showed me that girls today don’t have
to live by the same lie that I believed which was, I didn’t have a choice. I thought I was
supposed to go along with the crowd or act out the behaviors I saw in the movies. “Girls
just want to have fun”... don’t we? I learned on my own how to get the attention and love
My vision is for teen girls to know they have a choice on the decisions they make, that
girls know they are God’s Masterpiece, He loves them and values them so much that
He created them for his purpose, and wants a relationship with them. I wish someone
told me that and now we will. Your daughter will be empowered to know Jesus as their
best friend and equip them to make healthy decisions that intentionally line up with his
purpose for them.
At the Beauty Project we are creating a fun and festive experience for teen girls to
understand their true worth and value by way of using God’s promises for their lives.
We’re going to girl talk about faith, friendships and fashion! They’ll make storyboards,
enjoy lite bites and get up close with our new worship leader!
Moms, this is the kind of event we wish we all had growing up!
The girls will all hear the same word and can hold each up with accountability and
support. They will make wiser decisions knowing their value because of Jesus. They will
be empowered to live in confidence and to own their choices over what social media
tempts them with.
We CAN do this together! Please make this a priority in your daughter’s schedule and
bring her with a group of friends. You’ll be so glad you did. Hopefully, her letter-to-self
will look much differently than ours. I’ll take that bet. Together, let’s lay that foundation in
her heart that she can depend on forever. #Jesus
Written by Dani M.
Everyone has the desire to be loved and wanted by others. We often think the more friends the better, the more people that like us the happier we will be. In middle school I looked for approval in my classmates, rather than the one whose opinion is most important- God.
Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm (Proverbs 13:20)
Picking the right friends with good morals was a struggle for me in middle school. Instead of looking for friends with Godly attributes I desired to be liked and looked up to by my peers. I craved acceptance from the other girls at the lunch table. Early October one year, I vividly remember sitting at the long table in the cafeteria when I started to hear conversation about Halloween. It was common for each lunch table to do a group costume and attend the same party. When I noticed that most of the girls in the group were being secretive, I immediately felt a pit in my stomach. Shortly after, I had heard from a few of the girls that a separate group chat was created without me in it to discuss the costume. I went up to my room that day after school and cried for hours. I felt unworthy, unwanted and unimportant. I confronted my close friends in the group and asked why they did not want me to be a part of the costume? They confided in me and had told me that the ringleader of the group had not wanted me to be apart and influenced the other girls to exclude me.
A few days passed and it wasn’t long before my mother asked me what was wrong. I told her the story and she asked me the question, “What does the Bible say about friendships?” At the time I didn’t think the Bible could solve my friend drama or make me feel any better. Well, was I wrong! Here’s what I learned.
Jesus longs for a personal friendship with each one of us. He wants to be the one we love to spend time with, the one to whom we pour out our heart, the one we high five when we do well on a test! He’s our best friend, wise, patient and the definition of love (John 15:13). When we get to know Jesus we learn our true value and purpose. God created us to be in fellowship with Him and this is the example we are to recreate with the friends we choose in life. I learned to be more selective and find friends who had godly wisdom (Proverbs 13:20) to share and were reliable (Proverbs 18:20).
God gives many examples of powerful and strong friendships in the Bible: David and Jonathan, Naomi and Ruth, Christ and Mankind. It is important to examine your own friend group and ask, is this a clique or a friendship circle? Am I doing anything to make someone feel unwanted? Am I surrounding myself with people who make me feel good for who I am? Good friendships take time to develop but are a gift from God. What kind of friend are you?
Her Life Speaks is all about Her testimony, Her life, and who God is in Her story. Here we write our stories in hopes of helping other women find their relationship with Jesus Christ.